Do I Want Kids? What If You Never Have That ‘OMG I WANT a Baby’ Moment?
For as long as I can remember, I was waiting for the moment. That instant switch when I’d suddenly just know I wanted to be a mum. The feeling that so many women talk about—the overwhelming desire, the biological pull, the certainty.
But it never came.
I kept waiting. I loved my life, my career, my freedom. I adored my pets more than most babies. I didn’t cry at pregnancy announcements, and I never felt the urge to hold a stranger’s newborn. I assumed that meant I wasn’t meant to be a mum—that motherhood was for the women who just knew.
Turns out, it’s not that simple.
What If You Never ‘Just Know’?
We grow up hearing that we’ll “just know” when we’re ready for kids. But what if that moment never arrives? Does that mean you shouldn’t have children? Does it mean you’ll regret it if you do?
I had to ask myself the hard questions:
Do I actually want kids, or do I just feel like I should?
Am I afraid of regret, or am I afraid of making the wrong choice?
What would motherhood look like on MY terms?
What does child-free life actually look like beyond just ‘working more’?
I realized that my hesitation wasn’t because I didn’t want kids—it was because I hadn’t seen motherhood done in a way that worked for me. I wasn’t drawn to the versions I had grown up seeing. But that didn’t mean I couldn’t create my own version.
And if I had realized that earlier, I could have saved myself years of second-guessing.
You Don’t Have to Do It How Your Parents Did
One of the biggest blocks people have in this decision is that we often picture parenthood exactly as we saw it growing up.
If your parents struggled, you might fear that too.
If your mum lost herself in motherhood, you might fear losing yourself too.
If you never saw an equal partnership, you might assume that’s impossible.
But here’s what I want you to know:
👉 You can do parenthood your way.
👉 You can set boundaries and keep your identity.
👉 You don’t have to give up your dreams.
And on the flip side...
👉 You can live a full, meaningful life without kids.
👉 Being child-free doesn’t mean you just work more.
👉 You can design a life filled with deep purpose and connection in other ways.
The choice isn’t between having kids and being fulfilled vs. being child-free and missing out.
The real choice is: What kind of life excites YOU?
Why I Created This Guide
I didn’t create this guide to tell you whether or not to have kids. I created it because I know what it feels like to be paralyzed by uncertainty. To feel like you should just know but not have that clarity.
I designed this 17-page workbook to help you explore this decision on your own terms. It’s filled with the questions I was too afraid to ask myself, and the ones that finally gave me clarity.
🔹 What kind of support system do I need for parenthood to feel right?
🔹 What does a fulfilling child-free life look like beyond just ‘working more’?
🔹 What if I regret my decision? How do I make peace with it?
🔹 What does this decision mean for my relationship?
If you’re feeling stuck, this guide will help you find YOUR answer—without pressure, guilt, or fear.
📩 Download the guide here.
Final Thoughts: Choose With Trust, Not Fear
At the end of the day, you’ll never know the life you didn’t choose. None of us will. But you can choose with confidence, with trust, and with clarity.
💡 You are not broken if you don’t feel an intense pull toward motherhood.
💡 You are not selfish if you choose a life without children.
💡 You are not wrong for wanting a different version of parenthood than the one you grew up seeing.
Your future is yours to create. So let’s stop waiting for a sign and start asking the right questions.
✨ Ready to finally get the clarity you need?
